Let There Be Space Between You. Let It Bring You Closer
Falling in love is one of the most beautiful feelings. All hooked and wired up 24x7, you feel like spending every waking minute in each other's company, and still, it is not enough!
If you strike that unmistakable chord to get fireworks exploding, then being away is even harder. The phone calls last all night, and the texts keep coming all day. You want to meet every single day, plan getaways, and do everything under the sky, together. You’re ever greedy for 'some more time together.’
You get so caught up in the restless pangs of love that when you start losing your individuality, you don’t realize it. Before you even know it, you merge into one entity. Your ideas start cloning.
The concept of 'me' time fades away till a day dawns when you start missing your old self, your old friends, your old life.
Why bring yourself to a position where you have to struggle to catch up with yourself?
You may argue that what about married or live-in couples? They stay in one house. Sleep in the same bed. Wake up together. Coordinate schedules.
Sure, of course, they do but they too need their space. Healthy space is imperative for any relationship to thrive.
When you’re deeply involved with someone, you give each other companionship and support. You are there for the other as each of you faces life’s challenges but sometimes it is the breathing space you give to your loved one that brings you even closer.
That doesn't mean it's always easy to know when to give your partner space, or how to ask for it yourself. You may feel worried that too much space may drive the two of you apart.
Understand that wanting personal space has got nothing to do with wanting to break up.
It is about celebrating love without losing your individuality.
Two different individuals bring their uniqueness to a relationship, which helps the relationship to grow. It is normal for couples to become dependent on each other as time goes by. But being overly involved or interfering in the life of your significant other and keeping similar expectations from your partner can at times be stifling and crippling. Too much smothering can lead to the death of a relationship.
If you want to keep the flame burning, back off, every now and then. A little space is what a relationship needs to bloom at its best.
To sum up, I’ll quote a beautiful poem by Khalil Gibran —
"Let there be spaces in your togetherness, and let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.”
