Self Love

Someone says or does something that makes us feel bad, alters our mood, affects the state of our mind, makes us sulk, or pushes us into a deep dark corner!
It happens to all of us. All the time. They could be our parents, in-laws, friends, boss, partners, co-workers, or sometimes even a stranger! They may say something or do something so hurtful and we are just not able to get over it. 
Their words/actions create turbulent ripples to disturb not only our peace of mind but our entire ecosystem because we humans have a tendency to go through our lives as per our ‘moods’. 
Let’s question ourselves, who gives these people the power to hurt us? We feel bad because WE give THEM that power to hurt us!
Do we agree there? Now, what if we don’t react to the situation? After all, our reaction is in our control — whether we chose to respond to anger with anger, or stay calm and let the storm pass.
Feeling bad never resolves anything except embittering us a little more. It’s perfectly fine to distance ourselves from people who are always belittling us, even if they are family.
Sometimes it’s not possible to cut off ourselves physically but we can always detach ourselves emotionally. Why be in the company of toxic people who drain us of our energies?
When people are nasty or rude toward us or look for flaws in us or puts us down, know that they are using us as ‘mirrors’ for how they feel about themselves. It’s for us to not let negative people drag us down.
Last but not the least, we first have to value ourselves for others to value us. We need to learn to love, and respect, ourselves. We need to give importance to our opinions, feelings, and way of being. Replace the feelings of self-doubt with self-worth.
It lies totally unto us that others treat us with respect, we are deserving of!
Remember, what we allow is what will continue…

-shell